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Body Language: Read Her Cues

25 Jun

Attraction


The game of attraction is a difficult one to play, especially for men that are trying to find an attractive woman to date. When searching for a woman as a mate, men are socialized and somewhat hardwired by biology to overlook physical cues in an attempt to seduce as many women possible, theoretically bettering the chances of finding a mate, but ultimately resulting in a higher rate of failure and occasionally lowered self-esteem. Properly reading body language produces a better chance at finding and attracting a suitable mate.

At the first stages of attraction, when men and women are beginning to notice each other, men are usually a bit overzealous. Eagerly awaiting an opportunity to interact with an attractive woman causes men to ignore which women are giving obvious cues of intrigue and which are just being polite. For instance, a gentle smile by a pretty lady influences the average guy into approaching the woman to flirt. That smile may or may not have been have been flirtatious. Women give many cues that are very coercive visually, but can be completely innocuous and misinterpreted. The signs that relay a woman’s attraction to a man are maintained eye contact and a wide smile. They show her interest and are a small indication for the man to make an advance. Men often erroneously perceive any notice from a woman as a cue of her interest. Finding a match in a public area takes patience and keen observation. Eye contact followed by a tipped chin and an inviting smile are clear indicators; every other behavior could be misinformation.

Once a woman has shown interest, and an initial meeting has occurred, the next step in interpreting a woman’s body language comes in concert with actual conversation. A wide smile is no longer a culpable indicator of how closely engaged a lady is in your interactions. Things like a coy smile and a flip of the hair are often misconstrued as signs of attraction, when they could be a mere collection of thought or a sign of anxiety. However, people, specifically women in this case, give multiple signs of interest with both verbal and non-verbal communication. One fairly obvious sign of interest is if the woman laughs at everything the man says. Laughter and smiles are universal signs of happiness, so the man that gets boisterous laughter after each anecdote knows that his advances are at least amusing to the woman that he is pursuing. Compliments also serve as indicators that a woman is at least mildly intrigued with her pursuer. Some non-verbal cues include the positioning of a woman arms and legs. Arms folded portray defensiveness and reticence. Even if she is laughing, a woman with her arms folded is hesitant to believe anything from and disclose anything to the person with whom she is talking. A high leg cross at the knee signifies a defensive stance; and it often accompanies crossed arms. Women that lean backwards when talking to a perspective mate are physically, though often unconsciously, attempting to put space between her and her suitor. A receptive woman has languid, open body language. Her arms are open, in her lap, or visible on the table in front of her. She leans in to converse with someone that attracts her and eventually breaches the touch barrier, possibly putting her hand on his arm, shoulder, or knee.

Touching generally means that a woman has reached a certain level of comfort and attraction with a potential partner. The man should reciprocate the touch promptly and limit his touches to the same area of the woman that she touched on him. Eye contact and demure body language should continue. If it does, the man should continue interacting and entertaining. If the woman’s feet start tapping and she looks into the distance often during the conversation, then she has lost interest. A person’s feet start moving once they have decided to leave the conversation. If that happens, then he should make a swift, sincere exit.

Women’s intentions can be absolutely confounding to men in simple, everyday situations. Deciphering those desires in a specific context proves exponentially more taxing. But, a woman’s body language allows a more in-depth perception of that person’s real intentions and she is easier to understand if you have the tools.


How to Save the WNBA

24 Jun

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This article was originally submitted on June 5, 2011. Due to good reader response, we decided to run it again.

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This is Skylar Diggins.

10. Re-draft all the players and pick the two hottest women as team captains - This should be fairly easy if you picked the obviously cute women first (believe me, there will only be a few of them), then picked the women that do not look like men, and finally choose the women that look like Dennis Rodman after a month-long trip to Vegas. This will not help the quality of play, but it could make the game a little more…ahem, attractive. Skylar Diggins gets first pick obviously.

9. Give away prizes to people that actually attend the game - People think that Oprah is insightful and compassionate. No, she does not like or care about people and their asinine problems; she is a billionaire. But, she does give away cars every season to the people that listen to her tripe-filled, hour long shows. Oprah is an evil genius who controls the minds of millions of women. Learn from her. Giving away free stuff draws people to businesses. And at worse, if no one likes their free gifts at the games, the homeless population will get a few free shirts and backpacks.

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8. Let one NBA player play in drag in each game - Following in the footsteps of Grand Ma Ma, Tyler Perry, Steve Urkel, and Big Mama’s House, let two guys put on dresses and play basketball as women. At least one player on the basketball court would be able to dunk the basketball in every game and we might even see an occasional crossover. Men and women could come to the games wearing mu-mu’s and high-tops and cheer for their favorite cross-dresser. It works in the movies, it should work here.

7. Exchange at least three players from each WNBA team with three women’s professional volleyball players - Some of the same skills that are used in volleyball, lay the foundation for being a great basketball player. Specific skills like jumping, timing, positioning, and hand eye-coordination are used almost identically in basketball and volleyball. The women are taller in volleyball too, which translates well to basketball. Also, volleyball players are hot. Basketball players usually are not.

6. Raise the length of the shorts 6 inches and give the option for a peep cut on the jerseys - The WNBA lacks the overall sexiness of the NBA. That needs to change. The players could also exchange their sneakers for high heels and put on full make-up before each game. They should get rid of baggy shorts altogether. Basketball athletes run miles everyday. They should show off the rewards of all their hard work. If someone wanted to drop the neckline on WBNA outfits, that would be okay too. A little cleavage never hurt anybody… unless you slept with the woman that could crush cans with her boobs, but I digress.

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5. Make all teams change their uniforms to the form-fitting Australian national team outfits - The Australians have it all figured out when it comes to advertising. Their national team rocked legless catsuits for the Olympics. The same basketball team posed for “artistic” photos to sell their calenders and raise money for some cause that no one remembers because they were naked.

4. Encourage women to celebrate like Brandy Chastain -The athletes of the WNBA should be encouraged to celebrate every goal by running down the court in a full sprint, ripping off and throwing their jersey into the air, while sliding across the court on their knees. The crowd of fathers bringing their daughters to see the game, former women’s basketball players, and lesbians would probably all celebrate too. That’s my idea of a party.

3. Take all post-game interviews in the locker room - We are all about equal rights here at AnswersFromMen.com. If reporters are allowed into men’s locker rooms immediately after games when they are dressing, showering, and grooming while shirtless, then women should be interviewed under the same conditions. It is time for a change in this male-dominated society towards completely equal rights, and we should definitely start this revolution at interviewing women in the showers.

2. Make new hockey-friendly rules where players are allowed to fight - Whenever there is a disagreement on the basketball court, the referees should bring out a large kiddie pool, two bottles of baby oil, and let the women settle their disagreements in grudge match. They should also encourage clothes tearing, hair-pulling, and biting. Maybe light spanking too, because they have been naughty girls.

1. Play games shirts vs. skins - If everything else does not work. They should just bring basketball back to its roots on the playground and play shirts versus skins. Old school is always best way to do anything.


Answers from Men: Interview with a former Pimp

21 Jun

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Originally posted on June 5, 2011.

Men come in many different shapes and forms from various walks of life. This interview is the first installment of a new series  that is appropriately named, Answers from Men. The views of this interview are not necessarily shared by answersfrommen.com.

AFM: How did you get your start?

Pimp X: I didn’t really start it myself. I was always good with women. I dressed well and could hold a decent conversation. I was just in the right place, at the right time, talking to the right people. Understand. The life came pretty easy to me. I could always talk to the women.

AFM: So, how did you get your first girl?

PX: She came to me. A lot these young cats think that they can pull every woman that’s in the streets. To have a chance at this game, you have to know that if a bitch talks to you, ‘That’s what you call women in the life. It establishes a hierarchy between you and them,’ then, you can pull her card. But, the pimp game is just like life, the bitch chooses you first. What you do after that depends on your word game. If a woman talked to me, she was coming with me.

AFM: Since you brought up the word “bitch”, what is a bottom bitch? For all those people that don’t know.

PX: Any pimp that’s worth two red cents has a bottom. She’s the one that turns out the new girls and takes care of them for you. She’s a pimp’s right hand when it comes to the girls, his favorite.

AFM: So, you love your bottom?

PX: I didn’t say love. I don’t know if a real pimp can really love anybody. If you want to be in the life, you have to have your emotions under control. If you are too sensitive, then your stable won’t respect you. If they don’t respect you, then they are going to find a pimp that they respect. I never got too close to any of my girls and rarely had to hit them. I never lived in the same house with them like most pimps did. A strong pimp needs to keep some of that mystery. I put them on the corner, told my bottom to keep them moving, and worked the block. After they put in their day, I got my money and took them back to their apartment.

AFM:  If you beat the women, why did they stay with you?

PX: Violence is part of the life too. If you pimp long enough, at some point, a bitch is going to test you to see if she can run your operation. You better make an example out of that bitch in front of the others, so that they know that bullshit is not tolerated. It’s like a square that’s been married to the same woman for a few years. Sooner or later, she is going to test him. If he folds, that woman is going to run the house from then on. It’s a part of real life. The woman stays with you because you make it clear to her that there ain’t nobody out there that’s better than you. You treat them right, but you keep them in pocket too.

AFM: You said you treat them right? So, did they keep any of the money that they made on the streets?

PX: Hell no! I didn’t get in the game to make nobody else rich. I gave my girls an allowance to keep them looking good, but that was it. They brought me my money at the end of the night, period.

AFM: Okay, so how does pimping apply to real life outside of marriage?

PX: Ah, man, pimping is in every part of life. Either you’re a pimp, a trick, or bitch. In life, you’re either a pimp that’s working the system and making money off of all the other people, you’re somebody’s bitch, working to make money for somebody else, or you’re a trick getting taken for all he’s got. You don’t have to decide what you want to be, because somebody is ready to make the decision for you and take you for a ride. Do you want to control somebody or be controlled. I was always the type of cat that would rather decide my own fate, so I got into the life.

AFM: Hey man, thanks for your time.


Why We Will Not Win the War on Drugs

20 Jun

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By William Bixby

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Since the eighties, our government has proposed an all-out “war on drugs.” The prevalence of cocaine and heroin related deaths and crimes sky-rocketed during the eighties and it has never fully receded to the ratios that were set prior to that decade. The American government vowed to stop the flow of illegal recreational drugs into this country, but have failed for a myriad of reasons. These are the reasons why the United States will not win the war against drugs.

1. People Want Drugs

The first reason that America can not win the war on drugs is also the most obvious reason. The American people want drugs. According to the National Drug Threat Assessment 2010 which was published by the United States Justice Department, the United States uses more illegal drugs than any other country. In fact, our country uses more than twice as many drugs as Spain, the next country on the list, and nearly as much illegal substances as the next three countries combined, Spain, Italy, and Canada, respectively. The United States spends 215 billion dollars annually on illicit drugs.

2. New Technology

Drug cartels have used speed boats for decades, and have used parasitic devices on cargo ships for even longer, but they are becoming more inventive and deceptive in how they move their drugs into the United States. Cartels utilize scientists to traffic their drugs in ways that law enforcement officials did not believe were possible until now.

A. Semi-submarines – 60 foot semi-submersible water vehicles are capable of carrying 6-8 tons of cocaine which is worth $160 million dollars in street value.  Over the last decade, 63 of these vehicles have been captured, but it is estimated that only 1 of 10 of the semi-subs are taken by law enforcement, so over a billion dollars in cocaine reaches the States annually through these vehicles.

B. Submarines – Drug cartels are now hiring engineers to build actual fully functional submarines. The first one was discovered in South America about 6 years ago. Made from from lightweight materials, diesel fueled, and coated in Kevlar, these subs are over 100 feet long and capable of holding 7-8 tons which translates into about $160 million at street value. These subs dive 65 feet underwater, and are almost completely undetectable by sonar. So, the amount of illegal drugs that reaches North America through this method can not even be calculated.

C. In 2000, a torpedo named the Neptune project hit the black market for sale to drug traffickers. The torpedo could be dragged by a fishing boat from shoreline to shoreline, so it was economical and relatively inexpensive. Each torpedo only carried about 3 tons of cargo, but that still equates to about $24 million of drug money and law enforcement officials have no way of detecting the submersible. The Neptune project has two special attributes that made it infinitely more desired and profitable than most other ways of drug trafficking. First, because it has no fuel based engine, it has no heat signature that makes it detectable by sonar or radar. And second, it has a unique feature that has made it preferable to other trafficking options. The torpedo is attached to fishing boats by up to 1,000 feet of line by a clasp. If the boat is approached by law enforcement, then the navigator of the boat releases the cargo into the ocean where it is undetectable. But, whereas before drug traffickers would have had to accept the loss of product, this torpedo has a buoy attached to it that resurfaces via radio signal and sends a signal so that runners can retrieve it once the trouble has past.

Ultralights – An ultralight is a lightweight single wing aircraft that can only hold a single person. The Mexican drug cartel has drug runners fly across the border, make drops, and return without touching down. The aircraft itself only weighs about 300 to 400 lbs. and it carries about the same weight in marijuana to cartel members in the U.S. Each drop equals about a quarter million dollars on the street, so the this new method of making deliveries figures to be used for a long period of time.

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3. Drug Enforcement Profits

There is no simple solution to controlling drug trafficking, and law enforcement only poses a small obstacle for the criminals who sell illegal drugs. The criminals have unlimited, nontaxable financial resources, adequate if not equal firepower, and no restrictions of morality, no restrictions on the methodology used to get to an end, and no applicable repercussions for the people making the decisions (the soldiers at lower levels pay the price with jail time or their lives). The United States has spent over $12,206,399,000 this year alone on the war of drugs, and over a trillion dollars since the inception of the “war.” According to the Federal Bureau of Investigation 858,408 people were arrested on charges related to cannabis alone. 89% were charged with possession. There is no concerted effort to stop drug use, only a ploy to make money off its users. Federal administration has spent record numbers on interdiction – intercepting traffickers – and law enforcement spending 10 billion dollars solely in those two areas.