The Mis-Education of the “Game”

by Donald L. Jones

August 8, 2012

It’s Saturday night. You and your girls want to go out to ladies night at the local bar or club trying to find some baller or “prince charming” to sweep you off your feet and whisk you away.  But alas, they’re nothing but scrubs and wannabe’s at this joint. Some of these guys got it going on; however, they are interested in one thing from you and that’s sex. The poontang, the furburger, the hole in between. Most men do not know how to come off as being themselves or hard working individuals. Instead they come off as lames, pushovers, et al. On the contrary, there is this dude. Hard working, 9-5 type guy who really just wants the simple things in life. He goes to the club expecting a little R and R with a female, but comes up empty thanks to some buzzard throwing salt in his game. Or his approach is so weak and confusing that his lady targets get thrown off, and don’t get to know the real person behind mask.

Ladies and gentleman, there’s only one reason: You’re all mis-educated. When it comes to game, most people who end up at the bottom of the food chain do not have a great deal of knowledge about human nature. When it comes to guys, it’s all about what you say and how you seduce women. Most women like a guy who can charm they’re way into situations. It doesn’t really matter if the guy is half-way decent, as long as he has good conversation. According to Tariq Nasheed’s highly acclaimed The Art of Mackin, the approach guys should have when it comes to a high grade female is confidence. Most guys go into a conversation with females and try some over exaggerated swag speech that only disinterests the female.  Guys should always be themselves and keep their conversation down to a minimum. But, what produces these results? I would definitely say advertising and television produces these results.

The man stops reading and listening to what advertisers and the television wants them to listen to.  It’s quite imprudent and foolhardy to me because most guys have the potential to have A plus type game, especially those who are quite striking and handsome. I am not homosexual; however, I do believe guys do not capitalize on their physical attributes. There could be a lot of Denzel’s, Luther’s, and Tank’s out there who could coquettishly romance and seduce their way into woman’s heart. However, their lack of knowledge and tact detriments them from what could be theirs: beautiful, gorgeous, top notch females with all the goods who know how to treat a guy, who can hold it together when times get rough, who know how to get it done in bed, and have a stash of cash somewhere.

Most top notch females have the beauty syndrome as explained in Robert Greene’s The Art of Seduction.  A fine, young, strikingly gorgeous woman who has all of the qualities a man would dream of. Yet, she is waiting patiently for her dream guy her “prince” to come; and all she really wants is a little normal conversation and a little time out of the lime light. We (especially in America) are taught to go for the American Dream, that everything can be reached with hard work and determination. You see advertisements on Jordan, Reebok, Lexus, Bugatti and most men fall for this lifestyle as gaining a sense of power and control. Making all your friends jealous and covetous of what you’ve gained. But where is the power of those goods? Are material things more of a gain than a detriment? Does it really make you better?  Of course the answer is no! The tactic was designed for you to go out there and buy highly overpriced goods gaining no self-esteem at all. When it’s comes to men we have a tendency of trying to do “extra” stuff, like wearing all the latest clothes or buying a new flashy car. Unfortunately we are not educated on what we could do to educate ourselves to gain power … like going to a discount clothing store and buying the same clothes at reduced prices, and then match accordingly by style to come up with our own fashion sense.  It shows creativity and tastefulness. It shows high analytical skill and moxie. We get lost in this self-perpetuating form of educational oligarchy simply because guys do not read enough! Most guys do not see the bigger picture that comes with the game. You can be highly knowledge, but few are educated. Even though I do believe in going to college, most “scholars” aren’t educated and aren’t informed about the seductive process.  Somehow they still seem to have different theories and opinions as well as some ostentatious and flamboyant methods of getting women. It’s simply about human nature and phonetic skill.

When it’s comes to the female it’s more of what their mother taught them when they were little. Most girls in the process of becoming women, emulate and adore their mothers. When women dress half naked to a bar or club they’re desperately trying to seek attention. The low self-esteem as well as the high level of gullibility of this charade really illustrates the woman’s character as well as her motives. Some women just settle for any old thing, while others have higher standards.  Some women think that the way to charm a man is to act or dress in a certain way. This behavior is quite prevalent amongst black women. In many cases, they think that they need to act cocky or even act “white” in order to gain respect from a man.  This is frequently on display in skin care commercials like Revlon, Oil of Olay, Maybelline, etc. That being said, a real top notch female is not only bad, but she is comfortable in her own skin.

Be yourself.

A significant percentage of woman of color are uncomfortable in their own skin based on racial experiences growing up. I went to the Ohio State University in Columbus, Ohio and many of the Black women that I met there were quite uncomfortable in their own skin, creating complexes and insecurities about themselves, instead of just being themselves. It’s an illusion, a mirage, a figment of their imagination, and balderdash. Fantasies and dreams.  There’s absolutely no need to have to act “white” or like any other race to be me. Instead, I adjust with the surrounding culture while maintaining my own sense impunity and style. The way people of color carried themselves at “The” Ohio State University was deplorable and scary. Not saying that it doesn’t happen at other universities across America; however, it happened there and was possibly even more prevalent due to the school’s high profile reputation.

The game has been misconstrued and misused for years. Most men and women will forever end up being single due to the lack of knowledge in the game. Fact is, that they don’t even know it. They are in self-perpetuating circle of self-doubt and uncertainty. Without a doubt most young men and women are still trying to find ways to beat the game with their own philosophies. Most complex problems have simple solutions. The problem most people have is paying attention to detail and looking at the picture. But that is their responsibility to find out … not mine.