Any heterosexual man that hopes to find and marry one woman needs to learn how to get along with women first. Women are complex and can be emotionally volatile which makes them incredibly difficult to understand. But, there are three things that every man should know when dealing with the ladies. Men should understand that they will never understand a woman, they should learn to listen, and they should know that in most situations they are wrong.
Men have no hope of ever understanding women, and any man that honestly believes that he understands women is a fool. Even women do not understand other women, and sometimes, they do not understand themselves. How any particular female feels about anyone or anything changes depending on her mood. Women are more hormonal and therefore more unpredictable than men. So, the first thing that any man should know about women is to expect the unexpected, because women have the unique ability to surprise you at anytime. They have the capacity to display great compassion in a a man’s most desperate moments and the wherewithal to assuage the male ego when it is needed, which is great for men. But, women are also more capable of making statements and engaging in behaviors that are completely illogical at worst or at least not proportional to the act that was committed against them. These behaviors prove to be very frustrating to men. And as a man, you should know that you will never be able to predict a woman’s next move. This knowledge is imperative to learning how to deal with them.
Next, you should focus on listening to women. This skill seems like a simple task, however it is one of the most daunting endeavors that an inexperienced man will ever experience. Men live by a different credence than women. Men learn from a young age that emotion and vocalizations are two separate entities. Young boys learn that you do not talk about your feelings. Talking for men is usually about expressing a physical need or connecting over an anecdote. Communication is a means to an end, not an exercise in itself. In the rare case that a man does express his emotions, the reason for emoting is generally to seek advice from other males. You see, even emotions are used as a vehicle to a specific desire. But, women emote on a far more regular basis in comparison with men, and vocalizing for ladies can be expressed for several different reasons. Women do talk to convey a specific physical need, however they also talk to get advice, to connect with others, to share their experiences, and sometimes women talk just to talk. Men make the mistake of attempting to solve the problem when a woman approaches them with a problem, when in fact, the woman just wanted to vent her frustrations. Men have to learn to listen to women if they want to be with them.
The final step in learning how to get along with women is realizing that you as a man are always wrong. In any argument that arises between you and a woman, you have done something wrong. It may have been you failing to listen to her rather than giving her your advice, you may have called her a name other than “sweetheart” in the heat of the altercation, or you may have just used the wrong tone when saying something that was absolutely true. But, you definitely did something wrong, and you should apologize. Accepting being wrong does a few things in an argument with a woman. It allows her an opportunity to look inside herself to see what she has done wrong rather than just looking for points with which to attack you, it focuses you on seeing her views instead of your own thoughts, and the vulnerability that your apology shows will give both of you a common ground where you can meet. Plus, truthfully, arguing with a woman is pointless despite the fact that you really do have a part to play in most conflicts. You will be wrong whether you apologize or not. This may sound self-pitying and maybe a little cynical, but it is true and knowing it can be freeing. You have to ask yourself, “Do I want to be right, or do I want to be happy?”, because you can not always be both. In relationships with women, your self awareness is one your most powerful character traits. When you realize that you are wrong, then you do not have to argue about the little things that go wrong in a relationship with a woman. You can shift towards solving the real issues that are in front of you. Being able to ask for forgiveness is pertinent to dealing with women.
Women are complicated creatures. They are difficult, moody, volatile, and completely unpredictable, but they also make life more fulfilling for any man. And, if any man wants to be fulfilled by a life with a woman he must learn to listen, learn to apologize, and accept that he will never truly understand her.