Men can be a little abstract about their feelings – sometimes purposefully and sometimes accidentally – and women are often completely confused by their reticence to be expressive with them. Men regularly communicate in a way that seems to be coded with the sole purpose of confusing the fairer sex. The article below translates what men really mean when they are speaking to the women in their life.
“I’m sorry,” generally means,”I’m tired of arguing.” Unless an apology is completely unwarranted and given without provocation, then there is a chance that the apology is insincere. If an apology is given during the middle of a heated battle, chances are that he has been worn by your constant barrage of words. So, give the man a break, accept his apology, and stop fighting with him. He has had enough and has thrown in the towel.
Can We Still Be Friends
“Can we still be friends?”, can mean three things depending on the context in which the words are spoken and who is speaking them. In the context of a breakup where the woman left the relationship, that phrase usually means that the guy did not want the relationship to end and is hoping that there is a chance of rekindling the romance. He is waiting on another opportunity, he is hoping that his ex will see the error of her ways, and he is praying that she will change her mind about him. Unfortunately, he is also probably wasting his time. When a woman decides a man is not worth her time, she rarely reassesses the relationship. But, when a man uses the phrase, it takes on a completely different meaning. Men are generally not your friends regardless of what they say or how they behave. In a situation where the guy broke up with his woman, “Can we still be friends?”, means, “Please do not cry right now. I just want a clean breakup.” He is deluded, because there will be tears, but that is his hope. Men will say anything to avoid tears. When there is no formal relationship between a man and a woman who are having sex, ”Can we be friends?”, from a guy means, “Can we be friends with benefits.” He just wants regular sex with no commitment.
I Need Space
This phrase means that you are too clingy. You are suffocating him with your constant phone calls and texts, wanting to be with him all the time, and just being too available. The best action you can take if you hear the words, “I need space,” is to give the man some space. By being less available to him, you give are giving the right man time to see how much he misses you and how good you are for him. Plus, you give yourself the opportunity to find the right guy if your boyfriend is the wrong guy for you. It is a win-win situation for you, though it might not feel like one in the moment.
I’m A Virgin
Unless he is sixteen – in which case you are committing a felony by pursuing him – “I’m a virgin,” means “I am extremely religious,” and/or “I am painfully, socially awkward with women.” Get ready for a lifetime of missionary work and sex, or waste three dates trying to connect with a guy who built the perfect woman on World of Warcraft. Or it could mean “I’m a liar, a terrible sociopathic liar.” Either way, run for the hills.
I’m In-Between Jobs
The guy who utters this phrase is happily unemployed. He has no interest in working and is probably staying at home with his parents. He has no work ethic and no ambition. The economy and a string of terrible bosses will be his excuses for his lack of a job, but he is the only reason that he is not working.
I Am Getting A Divorce
There are plenty of reasons that a married man will give you so that you will sleep with him, including that he and his wife are separated and getting a divorce. Any man that says to you, “I am getting a divorce,” is not actually getting a divorce 9 times out of ten. Men who want to get divorced do so before they worry about dating other women. A man who says that he is getting a divorce is not leaving his wife. It is cheaper to stay in his marriage, he may have children who will be affected negatively by the split, and he might just want a little fun on the side with you.
I’m Not Looking For A Relationship
“I am not looking for a relationship,” means that a guy is looking for sex. If he tells you this, then he does not consider you a person that he would date seriously for any one of a myriad of reasons. He could have just gotten out of a relationship. He could just be a player. But, regardless of the reason, a guy who says this is telling you the truth. He is not looking for a relationship and is unavailable emotionally.
I Value Our Friendship
This one of the most terrible phrases that a woman can ever be told. It is in essence saying that a guy does not find you sexually attractive. There are only a select few reasons why a man would not sleep with a woman, and valuing a friendship is not one of them. Men pass on sex for only these three reasons:
- The man might catch a disease.
- The woman is so crazy that she scares the guy (a little crazy makes a woman better in the bedroom, a lot of crazy makes her homicidal).
- She is ugly, fat, or an unwanted combination of the two.
Men will sleep with their female friends. They will sleep with crazy girls. They will sleep with moronic women who have trouble stringing together sentences if they have a big rack. Men will sleep with any woman that they find physically attractive. Deal with it.
I Love You
No phrase is more open to misinterpretation than, “I love you.” Some men use these words appropriately and some use them haphazardly, however there are some universal truths about their usage. If “I love you,” is uttered before the first month has passed and there has been no sex in the relationship, then the guy is playing his trump card. Some women still fall for a well-placed, “I love you,” when they are interested in a man. If the relationship is sexual and less than a month has passed, then you are dating an immature guy who has not experienced a real relationship yet. And, immaturity comes in all ages. If a few months have passed, and he says that he loves you on his own, then the guy who says this may really love you. He is considering taking your relationship to another level. However, if you expressed your emotions first, then he could just be reciprocating the words. Some men do not know how to express that they have feelings for a woman, but may not be ‘head over heels’ in love with the woman yet. For married men, “I love you,” can be the precursor to an apology or the prelude to a romantic evening. ‘I love you’ has many meanings, so be mindful of the situation in which it was spoken.