The dating world is rife with pitfalls for everyone, but older women have it the hardest when trying to find a mate. Available men seem to flock towards their younger counterparts in droves. But, why? It would seem that an older woman who is more established in her career, more resolute in her own convictions, and more self-aware overall would be the better choice for any guy to date. Yet, men seem to prefer younger women when given the option to choose. AnswersFromMen.com is here to tell you why men choose to date younger women.
Less Emotional Baggage
Younger women generally come with fewer emotional scars than older women because they have been exposed to less heartache and pain. Having fewer boyfriends means having less opportunities to be disappointed by men. So, younger women give more freely of themselves emotionally. There are no walls protecting their feelings and no barriers to break through before a connection can be made. Older women have experienced bad breakups, cheating boyfriends, lying husbands, deadbeat fathers, and sometimes ugly divorces too. They have seen the worst of men and become jaded emotionally. These women are more reticent to let their emotions lead them, because they have been let down by men too often. But, emotional availability is necessary to any relationship. So, the person who is more open with their feelings is the better choice.
Expectations often lead to disappointment, and older women want a man to sweep them off their feet. Though they have a seen a lot of the worst behaviors of men, they have also seen the best of men, even if only from a distance. Older women have friends who have married the perfect guy. They have dated men who have brought them roses on every date. They have been wined and dined. So, some of them, especially the more attractive older women (who guys have thrown money at since their teenage years), expect Prince Charming to buy them the world and cater to their wildest desires. However, unless Christie Brinkley or Halle Berry is rejoining the dating pool, older women are not nearly as attractive as they were a few years ago. And, there is an army of hot twenty year olds who are just happy for a guy to pay for a meal. Impressing a younger woman is easier.
Everybody has specific physical characteristics and personality traits that they prefer in a partner, and all women have their own individual preferences in men. Some women date tall, dark skinned men and others prefer lighter skinned, blonde guys. Some ladies prefer muscular men, some like lean, toned guys, and some want fellas with a little meat on their bones. A lot of women prefer stoic, mysterious men, and yet some desire the extroverted, people person as a partner. The list of desirable traits for all women is infinite, but for older women that list has to be specific to their desires, especially with those who have never been married. These women usually have an extensive list of things that a man must have in order to date them. The physical and personality traits are non-negotiable which is a huge part of the reason that they are still single. Only a few men could ever live up to their desires, and those men are already taken by more attractive women. Younger women have more flexibility in who they will date than an older women, because they have had less partners and theoretically have more time to find a suitable mate. They are willing to experiment with different guys to seek what the ultimately need from a relationship. The more seasoned women have been in the dating pool for a while and have refined what they want in mate to their own detriment. If she wants a man who is 6 feet tall and a guy is 5’10, then he is out. If a guy does not make $60,000 dollars and the woman wants a man who is financially stable, then he is never considered. Older women are notoriously more strict about who they will date.
Older women come into relationships with specific agendas for any love connection. They know where they want a relationship to go before they meet a man that peaks their interest. And as mentioned earlier, any guy that fails to meet her exact criteria is not even considered. If an older woman has children, then she is looking for a father figure and provider for her children. If she does not have children, then her biological clock is calling all the shots. She probably wants to be pregnant within a few years, so she is auditioning gentlemen for the role of father too. Older women who have never been married are searching for a husband instead of enjoying the company of an interested suitor. The courtship of an older lady comes with a lot of unforeseen attachments for men. Younger women take each relationship for exactly what it is, an opportunity to get to know another person. If she likes the guy, then she keeps dating him. If she does not like him, then she ignores him. There are fewer agendas when dating younger women.
Once you get past your twenties, and especially after you leave your thirties, there are just fewer good options for dating. All of the sweet girls from high school are married, or have been married, divorced, and are now angry at all men. The hot girls from college have gained 40 pounds, had children, and are looking for someone to support them. And, the women who have never been married but are still smoking hot are too emotionally scarred to date whether that be from dating idiots or irreparable childhood trauma. Rest assured, a beautiful 40 year old woman with a huge rack, a small waist, nice hips, no kids, and a great job, is psychotic.
Younger Women Are Hotter
Blame evolution. Men are wired to be physically attracted to younger women. Twenty year old women have more indicators of health and fertility than their older counterparts. The purpose of attraction is to propogate reproduction, so naturally the women who were more physically appealing from a evolutionary standpoint would would get more dates. Younger women have perkier boobs, firmer butts, and are just tighter in all the right places. They have fewer wrinkles, firmer bodies, and dress a little more provocatively. Men are simple creatures. Men like younger women because they look and generally are more fertile.
The Sex Is Hot
People are no more deviant now than they have ever been. In every society, there has always been outliers from general societal norms, even with sex. But, we live in a time where everything is accessible through the internet, especially sex. Any obscure fetish that touches the deepest recesses of someone’s mind - no matter how strange or macabre it may be - has an internet website dedicated to promoting it. And, the younger ladies are more willing to pursue their sexual enjoyment. Acts that were performed in private, but kept secret by the older generations are discussed openly by younger females. Women under the age of thirty grew up watching oral sex, threesomes, and anal sex on the internet. Some pornstars, like Sasha Grey and James Deen, have gone mainstream. And, because the taboo has become public and relevant, the younger generation is more open to explore sexually.